"So many women just don't know how great they really are. They come to us all Vogue outside, and vague on the inside." - Mary Kay Ash
The absence of Chivalry is often spouted as a common frustration amongst women. Though not extinct, many women wish traditional male courtesy maintained a stronger presence in today's society.
Yet I've found, more often than not, the women who express such frustrations don't in fact deserve the intense honor and respect of a chivalrous man.
As valid a point as they make, their own integrity and the respect they expect from men are often in-congruent. How can these women demand more respect than they give themselves?
And how can they find fault in men for not graciously offering something they have yet to earn?
Respect isn't the birth-right of a double X chromosome.
Who wants to open the door for someone who's belly button can be seen through the top of their shirt or who has more fingers on their hand than they do threads in their skirt?
Who wants to cultivate a rich and rewarding relationship with an individual who routinely discusses explicit details of their personal exploits on Twitter or Facebook?
The argument is illogical.
"Let us leave pretty women to men devoid of imagination." - Marcel Proust
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I dont think its fair to blame the downfall of chivalry to "a lack of virtuous women" as you say. Yes what you say is true. But a general moral decay of our society is a more fitting description.
ReplyDeleteThere is a widespread disregard for traditional values by both genders. BUT there certainly is no lack of virtuous women! For a lot of young men, the desire for a "sexy" girl by today's standards supercedes any desire for a "virtuous" woman.
The absence of intelligence welcomes the presence of ignorance. Men are at as much fault as the women for their "chivalrous actions". A man fails to realize that all the love and affection that they lay at the women's feet is similar to throwing pearls to a swine. She is no more interested in the man than an established rock n roll artist is at becoming a janitor and cleaning up the messes that he used to leave at parties during his professional career. The man's greatest failure lies within the company he keeps as well as the company he's attracted to (gold diggers, hood rats, etc.) The man's vision is clouded by appearance and false confidence that the woman gives off. She uses the man's weakness as nourishmnent for her own fiendish enjoyment. The man's ignorance is the true issue, because the woman he truly yearns to meet and share the rest of his life with is staring him in the face every day, waiting patiently for the chance to be recognized as she should have been the moment the man laid eyes upon her for the VERY FIRST TIME.
ReplyDeleteWell Said.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I FLUCKING HATE NEYO!! That cursed Miss Independent just gave chicks all the more reason to hate on dudes...FOR NO REASON! What the heck do you need my courtesy for if you don't look or act like you need it. Some girls cant't even respect a simple 'hello' without thinking, this niqqa is tryna get in my pants. And don't even get me started on the reason why male chivalry is common. Here's a hint, think bac to girls in Middle School.
ReplyDeleteWord, Deep points, speaking stuff. I'm again more enlightened. Thanks to you.
ReplyDeleteLet me begin by saying that I see truth in what you say . To the the contrary, all women who mention their sexual exploits on FB/Twitter do not lack self-respect . some women are simply more sexually free . It's all a matter of culture . Also many women may lose self-respect in attempts to find someone who will be chivalrous . OR, in addition will settle for a man and change her ways because men refuse to be chivalrous to her because they believe she has no self-respect . I see a vicious cycle . Men cannot expect to find a good self-respecting woman if they continue to degrade every other one that comes their way . not all men are like this, true . however with the overwhelming number of men using women, lying, cheating, seducing and slandering the gender, it's no surprise that females then begin to feel differently about themselves as a result . even if they aren't subjected to it, they may begin to believe that what has been and is true for one woman, is in turn true for herself as a result of social unity .
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